Would You Use a Male Babysitter?

Have you ever hired a male babysitter? Would you hire one for your son, but not your daughter?How many male teachers in day care and grade schoool have your children had? Have they ever asked you why?

I would have hired four of my brothers as babysitters; one might have taken his charges out on the roof. I still remember how delighted we were when one of my young uncles came to babysit. My Uncle Frank, six foot five, would hang from the top of the swing set, and we were allowed to keep all the money that fell out of his pockets. My youngest brothers were 15 and 17 when my daughter Anne was born. Going on vacation with them was pure joy for my daughters.

Several of my daughters' playgroups had helping daddies as well as helping mommies. We used a babysitting cooperative of parents when we went out; daddies were more likely to be the evening babysitter. The rest of the time we used our parents or my brothers. My daughter uses several young male actors as babysitters on the days I don't care for my grandson. I keep expecting Michael to say, "Go away, Grandma. I want Trevor or or Anthony."

One daughter had a male teacher in a Montessori nursery school in Manhattan. They  had one male teacher in a one-room schoolhouse private school in Maine. On Long Island they only had two male teachers in grade school; one was their favorite teacher. My brother is a grade school teacher in Maine. He says male teachers of young children now feel like everyone regards them as potential child molesters. He is cautioned against touching or picking up a crying child.

According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.men comprise:

• 5.4 % of Child Care Workers
• 8.5 % of Teacher Assistants
• 2.7 % of Preschool and Kindergarten Teachers

The same issues arise again with male home health aides. My mom, the big sister of 5 younger brothers, the mother of 5 boys would have been  happier with male aides. Several agencies absolutely refused to assign one.